Haunted

A hazy image of divine masculine that holds a vision haunting me day and night.

To settle out on the easy path of that lonely soul and my longing quest has bypassed my rational thinking.

Onlookers say I am stubborn, picky and prideful but the confusion instead pleads a different case.

Why can’T i suck it up and make the best of a moderate affection when drama seems more inspiring?

Haunted by a place holder of a dream come true which makes it that much harder to placate this desire to have it all.

It doesn’t help that age makes him juicy and ripe when superficial dismissal becomes a game to keep my chasing at bay.

A cruel joke by the universe in matching my perfectly laid out list of wedding bell criteria.

What is the lesson I beg invisible ears trying not to be too ungrateful for the legit options before me.

I hold onto a greedy desire to turn the statue into my own notch in my mattress on the floor,

though rolling around is only half the picture.

Those word don’t ever leave when it’s music sings of a yearning the world needs to dance to.

Am I haunted more by my personal desire to own the man

or

the magnificence embedded in the messages which exposes all things I myself try to hide from all prospects?

Finding my dark side pulled into looking at my own hate and loving the catalyst who forced me to embrace all the ugly I possess.

Haunted by the mask falling off my own appearance of prize to a puddle of tears on the floor.

Bargaining with God to release me with no intention of him answering my prayer and dissolving my hopes.

I reckon it be a mirage too good to be true only to be looked at from the crowd.

An untouchable angel saying it plain in a way that others are too afraid to commit.

Maybe this apparition is meant to be gazed upon by many and never held by one.

A perception that allows me to skirt past my own inability to captivate his party;

rather than release it to another brilliant mind to make buildings of brain candy.

Haunted by needing to reconcile this human need to be raw and solid at the same time

but doing it badly

and caring less each day

as I push past the sense of it all to bask in the legacy of beauty in motion that stands not for one but for a higher plane.

One that must watch from a distance

Appreciating the small part I get to play in picking apart mine own pat on the back for recognizing, after the fact.

deeper in an unconditional peace that allows the slippery excuse I use to reach to a better one,

manifested in the image of this complexity of unknown tantra

…….that I swept up into a bottle I keep with ashes on the windowsill

Was it all my fault?

Haunted

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loyal lusty obsession waking me up at night grasping at a floating heart on naked skin

blocking a sensible eye to entertain mr post man smiling sparkle to a game of cards.

I can’t quite put my finger on it

but my body charges shocks of painful electricity inside the brain when jumping feels too far.

Too young I excuse keeping poker chips off the table thoughts and excuses to a false loyalty

on a floating heart on naked skin.

So close I can touch it if I want each day through rain, snow and whatever the whether we be together

checking the mailbox for loyal phantom stuck in the E tower.

Smile to smile

banter of delight

Interest to interest

I swat back down to

loyal fantasy on a floating heart

on naked skin.

Flesh and bone sniffing at my driveway in sweetness and innocence that has seen it all

but I can’t budge

suspended in sitcom flirtation making a mystery of me that adds to the passion.

He is new and un jaded

I seem ready to retire from love scars and a rehash of get to know you

but I lie

I fear

a huge invisible weight regretted reacting subtle with every hmm and interesting

lip play and vocal thrust

just a kiss is just a kiss i wish seeing his sights on fun and play

but I am older

the excuse I use to stay in endless suspense to a twisted loyalty

to naked skin

on a floating heart

fog in my way

to pray is just to kiss away

false loyalty.

SufferInSilence

Hello Expressionist.

ok expressionist… this piece is a work in progress… SUFFER IN SILENCE. this topic my next writing challenge for the next few month as I piece together my memoir.. I ask that you overlook any grammar or spelling errors as I go through my first live draft along with releasing my somewhat lesser childhood trauma of being an A student all the time (not that I was but I certainly was an over achiever) and proving my intelligence through not making any mistakes. As writers in general our culture looks for ways to make one superior over the other in the world of smarts. I will also be playing around with sequencing under the inspiration of the book “Color of Water” and “The bonesetters daughter” MLK said it best that not every one can be great “smart” but all can serve. I use my life to serve others who are wiggling in the mud to carve out meaning. Join me if you want and write about how you or someone you know “suffers in silence”..TBC

I am standing in the dark of “Suffering in Silence” It came out of a very disturbing interaction that I had with my Aunt, who is in her 80’s. I have been in intensive recovery for anxiety and trauma the last year (and all my life) and I am surprised by how much comes up and out through the body as I release old behaviors and beliefs on the regular. My aunt; however is old school and did not grow up in the pressure cooker of new age brain re conditioning. She grew up in a world where it was not only preferable to suffer in silence but necessary. The thing that amazed me is that the trauma never goes away unless a person actively releases it. Now I knew this to be true for myself but I assumed I was a special case. I compared myself in a way that put me in more need of healing than the average other. I attributed this to not only the abuse I suffered from my childhood but also being open to people’s energy and problems in my fields of work which puts me in very intimate situations with the public.

This experience has opened a window into a, I will call it, philosophical perspective of denial and how suddenly and oppressively shocking events from the past can reap its ugly head at any time, even decade later. I have been facing it this last year in many different ways and none have to do with Covid, Trump or world collapse; though it presses upon me deeply. I have had many severe challenges in my life that I overcame superficially but not buried far within my unconscious memory system until now.

I respect children. Not many people do but I respect children. Hyper active. Hyper manic. Add. ADhbsD. All the labels put on biology and pure natural expression that stops grown ups in their tracks to cover it up and pack it in ice and some… more medication before writing them off as out of control and every man for themselves because, as the saying goes “my child doesn’t act that way”. I’ve also heard the age old “kids are not your friends” and the polar opposite of do not disturb the angry child and let us all put a bubble around them acting out and crying out “why you lookin at me”.

We live in a peculiar time. One where the system is failing and we all know it but have no energy, motivation and resources to change it. Every song on the radio and great poem wails and moans about the disconnect within the fabric of our sophisticated way of life but this does not translate into anything tangible. I first noticed in after college graduation during my first real internship in New York City. I did have a viable internship at a local radio station in the small Connecticut town where my school resided. It was a well known and reputable station but if it wasn’t in the city I wasn’t interested. The internship was at the Fox news station back when it was run by liberals’ and they were fighting with Ted Turner to get the next big 24 hour news station carried on the local cable station. Something that proved to be harder than it sounds since Ted Turner owned CNN, the other brand new 24 hour news station. It was the day of the Timothy McVey trial and all the young producers at the time where hyped up about getting the scoop; though with the new running all day I found it strange that it was thought to be a breaking story. I sat bored watching each assistant busy themselves with perceived anxiety as if they were about to great the president. It seemed odd to me that our show segment which aired at 7pm would be the shocking headliner when every episode before it said basically the same thing. Is this what I really went to school for? It was a foreshadowing of the chaos in which we have seen unfold through the dismantling of our televised stream of meaningful content. Luckily, after many days of crying in the bathroom, I left that job with a longing for more meaning and substance.

My parents are from the aptly named Silent Generation. They are on the cusp of the boomers carrying both the attributes of outspoken youth of the sixties with the remnants of second, maybe third generation immigrants. I say maybe because, as the generational name suggest, their linage is silent as if their life story was meant to be encapsulated like a James Bond movie. My mother is of German origin and my dad is of African descent. I like most mixed raced and brown paper bag ladies and gentlemen was sold the story of Cherokee grandparents and the idolized image of being one of the native free spirits that were guardians of this virgin land. Come to find out that our precious warrior, wigwam and papoos wearing ancestors had nothing to do with the black slaves and most of us cream and coffee colored people wear the mark of the slave master and not the chieftain. Growing up I could not get enough of this story and continuously pressed my dad for detail of the tails his supposed Indian grandmother survived; however, like all wide eyed off spring of slave blood, I was left with bread crumbs to fill in with my own image of how I got my high cheekbones and my sister got her “good hair”. It is, needless to say, a great disappointment to know that the only wars waged in my bloodline where the ones of rape and oppression. In fact the native people, especially the Cherokee, kept as far a distance as they could from the black slaves instead assimilating themselves amongst the white westerners.

My mid life crisis started when I was in my late 20’s until 45. I thought it odd too since all the new age seminars such as Landmark forum, Nlp, Agape and a myriad of self help and other worldly books under my belt I had a fantasy that I would be melted into a pool of forever bliss by age 32. Needless to say that didn’t happen. What happened instead was a slow series of painful shedding’s of skins I wore through all the different roles I was desperate to bring authenticity to. In college my quest was one of fun self actualization with my roommates as we played with the pendulum figuring out who was going to be a famous talking head after graduating from the broadcast communications department. My questions had more to do with will I ever find a boyfriend and how do I wiggle my way out of this plan be diploma and create myself as the next Halle Barry. Broadcasting was a fun pastime and the only major I could take along with my theatre classes but it did not fulfill my long held vision that I can accurately say I knew since I was 7, maybe younger. I was what you called an avid doubting believer. In fact my young innocent mind got a certain sense of satisfaction from my secret assuredness amongst the linear thinkers that were preparing me for the real world where acting and theatre did not exist in any tangible way. “Unless you know someone” or “got discovered” none of which I was directed to take seriously, though every trip to the big city found me posing in a coffeeshop with my feet swinging carefree from the round stools facing the window to the bustle of the sidewalk. Every urban legend promises of a “IT FACTOR” of some kind if you just smile enough, wear a cute outfit and embrace that magic moment when the humble producer taps me on the shoulder.

A year after graduation and after I left the pretense of network news I did my part to play the game of life in a good corporate job that made all the scruffy looking men that wander throughout high school to feel accomplished by the required tie and suit; along with our own personal cubicle. I threw myself into this with gusto, glad to have a private space of my own. I am one of 4 kids and personal space was a luxury that my smothering mama did not respect. I was required to present my journals to her well past normal parental concern of wild behavior and rabble rousing. During my interview I should have known this job would have been short lived when the manager asked me “how are you with monotony?” This was Nielson Monitor Plus and it paid a whopping $8.25 and hour so you better believe I was ok with monotony. The Nielson name was a golden goose in the communications world and even though I had no long term interest in being in the field I was still obsessed with proving to my parents that I was not going to “fritter” my life away, so in my mind the title was worth the sacrifice. I occupied my boredom with lunch time power workouts in the basement gym and found a comfortable rhythm joining all the other real world people ordering their coffees in the morning from across the street rather than the office cafeteria. My new act of rebellion was now laid upon coffee room chats about how we would never be caught dead picking through the floppy lettuce at the salad bar. I felt a sense of familiarity as if I was the cool kid in high school who was invited to eat outside with the brave outlaws that go against the grain.

High School me was hardly a rebel. My focus, as a middle child of two educators, was to get in the least amount of trouble possible, maintain an A average (which I failed at) and fantasies on how to graduate with honors as a group 2 B average student who never even took an honor’s course. My act of defiance felt more like playing the part of caring about being the top of the class in order to keep the concerned looks of all the serious teachers off my back. I was in on the joke, knowing that reality did not put me anywhere near the “nerds” and other weirdos who had an innate ability to travel together in the exclusive brain club. It fascinated me only in wondering if I could ever make it in life without being anointed as future Mensa. Nobody in my family was particularly geniuses but the drive of 1980’s education wall about being labeled “gifted class” by the 3rd grade or else it is all catch up from there. My inside life certainly felt like catchup starting in the 5th grade and the feeling hasn’t quite left me yet; however I was lucky to have been born an artist, which in high school give a bit of leverage around needing to be Shelton Valley-vid-torian. The pressure I received had more to do with being a “Miss Valley” contestant but I had zero confidence as a black girl in a white town thinking I had the gwall to even audition. I wouldn’t have put myself in that humiliatingly vulnerable position if I was paid yet I did long to be a girl who did have the confidence to be in the pageant. A super girly girl on the inside but not allowed to show too much of it around my white schoolmates in order to not think myself entitled to the beauty parade. I understood in the 1st grade that my beauty was 3rd tier default as a women of mulatto, zebra, Oreo cookie and a head of nappy loose curled hair in which gave me a free pass to at least commiserate about it with my bff’s of the moment.

I became the family enemy during the latter part of my 44th year on earth. I wasn’t the first, my eldest brother was cut out about ten years earlier and my sister has vacillated between on the triangulation outs and smack dab in the middle. Still after all this time I am scared to write about it in case, somehow, I may get cut off and out more than being cut out and cut off, as if that is possible. Can one be doubly dead or just a little pregnant. I probably should have left the toxic design of my family order a long time ago but I had a serious mission. I had a niece and two nephews and if I were to prove to myself that family patterns could be broken; something that I studied, conversed with and entertained myself with, then the rubber must meet the road and I needed to show up or shut up. It wasn’t too hard since children are the delight and blessing of the world and whenever I feel stressed or treated unfairly I always found peace and presence in the eyes of a child. In the 5th grade I enthusiastically volunteered to be a kindergarten helper and grabbing the dimples off that curly head cutie and the soft but sharp giggle sound that only comes out of a 5year old kept me able to sit still at my desk on those soap opera days.

Killingmesoftly

He kills me softly in silence and memory

I post his story tainted by a kaleidoscope cord

He kills me softly in songs that are eerily prophetic and equally not mine

I kill him softly as a third revolt for freedom of flight

He kills me softly singing perched by a love greater than the pain which inspires it

I kill him softly with ideas stinging, floating and rushing to discover its temple

We kill softly from a mean heart and open palm to merge our worlds

Of organized chaos

On the radio

An invisible frequency lost on an Album never made

In the underbelly where killing it softly reaches

Furthering

Our song in the ridges of a cd broken on the ground of change

We kill each other softly

Locked and set freedom

From our songs

On the radio

2020Lessons

Life drama is all a lesson, so I am told…..

blessing in disguise unravel in the dark.

Stillness reveals the answer, so I am told…

A quick fix to a lifelong revelation…

What is the lesson is the personal quest, so I am told…

There is no end to knowledge revealed..

Suffering is an illusion, so I am told..

The truth will make you stronger if it doesn’t kill you.

2020 lessons are the victory in itself, so I am told…

life goes on and back to business as usual…

Endings are a part of life, so I am told…

Nothing is permanent even monuments of steel.

Let go and let god, so I am told..

For they know not what they do and who they do it to.

Go within and be light, so I am told..

it is all that holds ground during the storms of fire.